Tips for Healthy Parent Child Relationship
If you have a controlling parent, it might be hard for you to gain independence. Use our recommendations to know how to behave in such situations.
Controlling parent: How to behave?
Consider His/her Behavior
Why is your parent controlling? Is he/she lonely or sorrowful? Analyze the issue considering what’s been happening in your family’s life. In case the controlling issues have been taking place since your early childhood, the problem might be serious. But instead of telling your parent to leave your alone, get rid of your anger and try to help him/her find the reason for this behavior.
Separate Yourself Emotionally from Your Past
You need to confront your past. You’re no longer a child, and now you’re responsible for the way your parents treat you. Develop a stronger sense of independence and make sure that your parents see that you’re an adult person. Do it wisely. Consider that becoming independent from parents could turn into a dreadful reality to you.
Talk With Your Parent
Is it possible that your parent’s controlling behavior is due to his/her emotional sensitivity? If you think it is, talk to him/her carefully. Your right intention and proper behavior will help you lead a conversation. Just don’t blame your parent and don’t argue about his/her behavior. Explain your feelings and ask what your parent feels. Being calm, honest and respectful is the best way for dealing with controlling parents.
Change Your Behavior
In case you have already talked to your parent and have done it in a wise adult way, but he/she keeps on controlling you, you might want to change your own behavior. For example, if your parent calls you throughout the day, convince him/her that one call per day is enough. Reiterate this point repeatedly until your parent stops calling you more than once. Be strict but patient. After all, it can be hard for your parent to give up long-standing habits.